Ten years ago I vowed to never use the word "jealous". Every time I would hear that word I would tense up and cringe. No matter what angle you look at it or how you try to defend it, once you have uttered the word "jealous" the energy shifts to negative. After many years of continuing to hear people use the word so lightly. I have come to the realization that there is never and I mean never a good, justified reason to use it, unless you intentionally want to create negative energy. Then you have far more to work on, to begin creating happiness. Jealous, is an ugly word that takes away somebody elses light. Yet it is used with a smile. It is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Here is what the power of the word "jealous" can do. The word itself means that you can not be happy for someone else. The joy and happiness that someone else is having, that made you feel jealous, is instantly taken away. The word is very selfish and hurtful because it instantly makes the other person uncomfortable and deflated, as if they don't deserve what it is you are jealous about. The energy of the word is so negative that it instantly puts dark energy into the situation. Heaviness, sickness, and bad voodoo all accompany jealousy.
What to do instead: Know there is enough goodness to go around and you will get your turn, Especially if you can be happy for others. Change your thought pattern. If a jealous feeling creeps in, change your thoughts to happiness for that person. Repetitive, positive reactions. Continue to do this work every single time and you will change. The word will start making you feel sick, literally. Tell yourself that they deserve that joy and don't assume that their life is perfect. You don't know what they have gone through to get there. From darkness comes light. Let this opportunity be a catalyst for positive change in your life. Use your feelings in a positive way to encourage yourself and strive for whatever it is that you want. Know that nothing good comes from being jealous of somebody. If somebody uses the word "jealous" with you, do not accept it. Do not dim your light to make them comfortable. Stand even taller and own your success.
* He that is jealous is not in love.- Saint Augustine